Making a Difference – Even if We Never Know It

I have a love/hate relationship with my job for many reasons – the first one being I don’t even like admitting to the fact that I am a caseworker for child protective services. Nobody likes caseworkers – they automatically bring up a lot of negative feelings and stereotypes. I like to think that I’m helping children who can’t help themselves and that I’m making a difference in families’ lives, but sometimes it can get really discouraging. There’s laws and regulations we have to follow, so we can’t always give the families what they truly deserve. Sometimes we’re so overloaded with cases that other cases have to get put on the back burner. Sometimes we are dealing with crisis after crisis on our cases and we have to put our own families on the back burner. Sometimes our clients let us down over and over so many times that we think there may never be hope for them.

But we, as social workers, aren’t in this profession for the thanks. We have to remember that it is our calling to serve our clients. We are the people who are there in their worst hour. We may never know the impact we have on a client (or anyone we meet for that matter), but that makes it all the more important to treat them with kindness. Leave a lasting impression. You make more of an impact than you know – do you want it to be good or bad?

image

I once had a client (a teenage girl) tell me that a former caseworker had made a comment to her that no foster parent would ever want her because she eats too much. WHAT?! My heart broke for this young woman. I wanted to strangle the caseworker who had said this to her. This teenager, who already struggles with depression and self esteem issues, will likely go on to have body image issues and that comment will ring in her head for years to come.

I would love to hear your stories (good and bad) about your experiences with child protective services. I am trying my best to be conscious of how I interact with my clients and how I can make a tough situation just a little bit better. I’d like to think that even if I don’t hear about the good things now, they come down the road.

Advertisements

One thought on “Making a Difference – Even if We Never Know It

  1. Hey there! I too work in Child Welfare. I work more with the foster parents than kids. I feel like I could have wrote this blog as you really shared many of my struggles. My heart breaks for our teenagers who are forced into group homes because they are “bad kids” and foster parents aren’t willing to open their homes to them. I am thankful for a caseload of amazing foster parents who are willing to stretch themselves to see redemption in these children’s lives. Recently, I’ve had a family who went above and beyond for a little girl. This particular family has had their foster son since he was a few days old (mind you he’ll be 3 this august). They are completing the process to adopt him as his parents rights were terminated. In fact, his mom has been missing since she gave birth. Until about a week ago. The case worker called the foster mom to inform her that her foster sons mom just had a baby who was coming into care and wanted to know if they would be interested in taking her. Without hesitation they said yes and their world hasn’t been the same since. They knew that if their soon to be son’s sister was coming into care, there was no better place for her to be than with them. By all accounts, this family has done their share. Fostering for 3 years and having two biological children of their own, but it’s been an amazing story to watch unfold.

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s